Everybody thinks that every one is having great sex. Everybody but themselves, that is!
Lack of sexual confidence can take several forms. Some people haven’t had sex at all. Others have only had one partner. Sometimes sexual experiences have been disappointing and frustrating. And more often than you would expect, people experience their partners as critical and blaming.
We’ll write about the challenges of having had only one or two partners in another post, but what about those who have never had sex?
Given how sexualised we are as a society, it may seem surprising how many people, of all ages, haven’t had sex at all. And, although it seems odd to say, the sexualisation of society itself is a problem. If you’re well into your twenties, or thirties, or fifties, you probably think you’re ‘abnormal’, and so there’s likely to be a lot of shame too.
How can we help?
Most importantly, we provide a warm, supportive and completely confidential space where all these issues can be explored, at a pace that’s right for you.
We work with the body, so you get a chance to fully explore, appreciate and amplify all your bodily sensations and pleasures. This is particularly useful for people who might identify as asexual.
We provide different perspectives, so we can guide you through the whole field of sexuality.
We can provide information and knowledge.
But most importantly, we can ensure that you’re not having to do this on your own.
If you think you might be interested in working with either of us, it’s our practice to meet you for a coffee and a conversation in a public space. Then we can both see if we’re a good fit. If we all agree then we’ll work with you to create a bespoke series of sessions to help you grow and flourish.
We look forward to hearing from you. And remember: the only antidote to shame is courage.