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About John

Why do I do this work?

When I became a partner in a city centre law practice at the unusually early age of 26, I was very successful in conventional terms, but not happy. I was poor at forming, maintaining or even understanding intimate relationships. I gradually came to understand that I was stuck in my head, disconnected both from my body and from my heart.

In my thirties I started to get in touch with my body and my feelings through dance, yoga, tantra, psychotherapy, body-mind centering and other practices. I discovered the joy and aliveness of my body and my sexuality. I worked with wonderful teachers such as Janis Claxton and Nancy Stark Smith [dance], Hilly Spenceley and John Hawken [tantra]. I studied core process therapy and then gestalt psychotherapy for four years. In 1990, I set up The Glasgow Zen Group, where, 35 years later, I continue to be the principal meditation teacher.

I really love to work with people who experience significant blocks to their capacity for sexual joy and expression, because that’s what I experienced for much of my earlier life, and I would like that burden lifted from you sooner than it was for me. Lack of sexual fulfillment doesn’t necessarily manifest as unhappiness; it can appear as boredom, or repetition, or disconnection, or a sense that there must be ‘something more’. Even so, the point remains: if we are not happy in our sexuality, we are very unlikely to be happy in this one precious life we have. Which is a tragedy. A tragedy we can resolve.

You can get more detail about my perspective from my free video courses Sexuality Maps and Sexual Confidence For Women

I trained in Sexological Bodywork with Joseph Kramer, Deej Juventin and Uma Furman, qualifying in 2015. I set up my practice that year, and have since worked with many individuals and couples to awaken or rekindle their pleasure.

Since qualifying I have done further training, including Caffyn Jess’ Intimacy Educator Programme and  Betty Martin‘s inaugural  practitioner training in The Wheel Of Consent.

I think people are entitled to know the motivations of practitioners, particularly male practitioners, in doing this kind of work. I have an emotionally rich life, a long term partner and wonderful relationships. I don’t do this work for personal gratification or ego, but because I want to help you reintegrate your sexuality with your emotional, spiritual and imaginal aspects, so you can become whole again. It’s healing through pleasure.

And I’m plainly not for everyone. Which is why, prior to taking any money, I will have a detailed, free conversation with you [ideally in person, otherwise by telephone or Zoom; it’s your choice] so that, from an informed and relational position, we’ll know if we’re a good fit.

Alongside my individual work I was the co-founder and co-director of The School Of Conscious Touch, which provided expert in person certified training in Scotland for people who wished to work professionally with sexuality in a way that was authentic to them. Two of my students now have thriving practices here in Scotland. I now provide mentoring on a one to one basis for aspiring sexuality practitioners and supervision and collaborative creativity for those in practice.

I have written extensively about sexuality. You can find my articles here ,which give some idea of the scope and range of my work. I’d encourage you to explore these articles. They offer a fairly consistent – if unorthodox – perspective on sexuality, a holistic contrast to the performative, orgasm focused mainstream view, which may hopefully chime with you. If it does, let’s talk.

You can contact me here

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John's Certificate of Sexological Bodywork

Above: John’s Certificate of Sexological Bodywork

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