Coaching for Couples
What is going on for each of you and how can it be improved? What aspects of yourself have you been ignoring in order to maintain the balance in your relationship? And what patterns would you like to get rid of and what new ways of being loving with each other do you want to introduce?
What disappointments need to be overcome so that you can feel open and tender and willing to try new things? And how can you come to genuine agreements about how to balance your different needs, interests and capacity for sensuality in your relationship?
These are the questions that have arisen in Karen’s work with couples over the years. In addition to being a professional coach, Karen has been a group and team facilitator for many years, helping diverse personalities overcome personal disagreements and situational challenges. So she is adept at managing the dynamics that arise between couples.
When we pay attention to our sensations and add new stimuli, we can revolutionize aspects of our relationship that have become stagnant.
Coaching as a Couple
We are individual coaches and we are a couple.
As individual coaches what all our practices have in common is that they are about being present here and now. It is these simple skills that give us the capacity to listen to the messages that come from our bodies. These messages give us lots of clues about what is getting in the way of our pleasure and so show us how to overcome these issues. Sometimes these challenges and miscommunications can be dealt with just as they arise in a session. At other times they give a couple new and shared information to work with later.
As a couple, one thing we notice is how our individual attitudes in the relationship constantly shift throughout the day. At one moment one of us is being forceful/directive (yang) and the other is receptive/receptive (yin), then the roles reverse. This gives us lots of room for manoeuvre and something to work with when we get into conflict. We always pay close attention to this dynamic when we work with other couples.
This flexibility is crucial in our work with you because at any given time each of you in a couple may have very different needs from the other. Our goal is to support you in finding your own dynamic dance as a couple that meets the needs of you both. Instead of trying to live up to, or failing to find a romantic ideal, we show you skills to develop and practise. These can extend your sensual vocabulary and capacity for pleasure and mutual understanding.
We both have a shared interest in healthy and sensitive sexual interaction that is based on integrity. By integrity we mean that both partners want to be looking at sexuality in their relationship and want to work with each other. Both parties are willing to listen to each other and consider their views and needs. So both parties in the couple know where they stand even if they do not agree about everything.
If you are single, our goal is for you to find your voice, your pleasure and how you bring the gift of yourself to the world. See coaching for Women or for Men.