WHY DO THIS NOW?
This is about our vitality as whole healthy individuals, as partners and as lovers.
It often feels as if half of our experience is missing. If we are in a relationship, that relationship might be very loving but not very sexual.
Or alternatively we may feel it is very sexual but always focused on orgasm so missing connection, presence, tenderness and surprise.
Often we may feel that our sexual activity, with others, and by our selves, is uninspiring and repetitive, or that we have low levels of arousal or interest in sex.
We may feel always in our head, never in our body. Or we can live with emotional highs and lows but feel our soul is unsatisfied. Or we may feel as if we are always giving and not receiving. We may feel sexually inept or lacking in experience and confidence. We may not feel very sexual at all, yet wish we did. And for others of us, we may be constantly sexually active but never feel really satisfied. We may feel that we are ugly or unlovable. If we are single we may feel we need another person to complete us.
But maybe something is not missing. Maybe there is something we’re not seeing, not experiencing! We need to see and know our gifts before we can give them. We need to have both halves of ourselves to complete a journey; we need both feet to walk.
Many of the things we identify in our sexual and intimate lives as ‘problems’ – such as low libido or premature ejaculation, unsatisfactory, predictable sex or lack of connection come from this imbalance, both in ourselves and in our relationships.
WHAT IS AT THE HEART OF WHAT YOU DO?
Balancing Yin and Yang
We look at how we harness both poles of our nature, feminine and masculine. Our yin side is responsive and fluid. Our yang side is active and directive. When we learn to fully embrace both sides of ourselves we become more adaptive and make appropriate choices in the moment for ourselves and for our relationships. This frees our energies to be more sexually expressive, joyful and in vibrant contact with our life force.
When we are in contact with the whole of ourselves we can
- Play with and expand in our relationships with our partner
- Become more open to finding new partners if we are single
- Invite more pleasure into our lives
- Free our hearts to love ourselves, our partners and life more
It’s like the sun and the moon, when one is visible the other is not, but we need the presence of both to live.
Yin and yang are subtle forces. This is why the Chinese ideogram shows a small ball of the opposite colour in each side of the diagram. The seed of the other pole is always present. It is a constantly changing dynamic.
No person is all yin or all yang. This complex interplay is where our first misconceptions about our own nature and the nature of our partners often arise.
The Yin and Yang of Relationship
We believe there is a dynamic balance in the world and the same is possible in our relationships. At our best we respond appropriately to life: we are radiant when we need to be and subtle when needed. Our lives and relationships glow as a result. This work is about living with dynamic balance in ourselves and in our relationships.
These relationships include our relationship with our bodies as well as our minds. Many people only explore sex and intimacy issues when they have a problem. This work is for everyone who wants to feel more, be more and love more.
HOW CAN I GET THE MOST FROM THIS?
We are your coaches, which means we are your facilitators. You set the pace and the destination.
This is about letting go of the ‘shoulds’ about what you believe you and your sex and love life ‘ought’ to be like and finding out what works for you right now. Less pressure to perform and more finding out what is the right balance of sexual expression for you and introducing new ways of expressing your own personality and natural instincts!
Specifically it is for people who want to explore their bodies as well as inquire into their relationships. Where a relationship has broken down it may be useful to consider other approaches as well. It is not about forcing change on a partner or even on yourself!
IS THIS HIGH ENERGY WORK?
Not necessarily, no! It’s about learning to feel deeply, breathe freely, use your senses fully and trust your body to lead you where you want to go.
It’s about getting in tune with what is right for you and getting in tune with your partner. And it’s about how you negotiate when you are out of tune with each other and still respect what each of you wants and needs. Doing this often means slowing right down before you find out when, where and how you want to speed up.
I’M NOT SURE WHAT I WANT, CAN WE JUST TALK?
Yes of course. We are delighted to help people find their way. However, the focus of the conversation, even if it is about your relationships, will always include how your body is responding to the situations in your life.
HOW MANY SESSIONS WILL I NEED?
You can expect to be able to apply your learning in your life from the very first session. So even short-term work of 3 sessions can have a good impact. We recommend ideally giving yourself a good opportunity to meet your long term goals with a 6 session package to transfer your learning into your day to day life.
HOW DO I GET STARTED?
Whether you choose to see one or both of us the process always starts with a free consultation and completion of an intake form to discover where you would like to begin. So by the time we commence together you will be clear if you want to start with a talking approach, with bodywork immersion or a combination of the two.
HOW MUCH WILL THIS COST?
Thirty minute consultation in person and by phone: Free
Intake questionnaire assessment: Free
£100 per hour with Karen and John (usually 1-2 hours)
£75 per hour with Karen or John (from 1 hour)
In person, by Skype, zoom or phone
Each workshop is tailored and charged accordingly
24 hours minimum for a session, 7 days in advance for workshops
This is about embodied practice. This means the focus will take into account what your body, your heart and your mind wants. We offer a wide range of practices beyond relying on conversation. However, for some people a talking therapy may suit your needs better at this time. We both have personal experience and training in this area and are happy to share our contacts .
We are offering to share the culmination of our life’s work, so this is a unique practice.