How does a sex therapy session work?

We can work together in person in Glasgow or on Zoom.  I offer an informal -and free – telephone call so you can find out more. I find this is the easiest way to take the first step. You just text me on 07545707751 and we can arrange a telephone call. Alternatively, you can simply contact me using my contact form. Whatever works best for you.

When we start our work together, before we do anything else, we will have a detailed discussion about your issues and how we might address these. We will agree short term, medium and longer term goals, and will talk about what methods and approaches we might use.

At the start of each session, we will talk about where you now are, and agree what we will do in that session. The most important thing is that each session is co-created with you. Nothing will happen without your active participation and agreement.

Often, people find the prospect of Bodywork too much at the outset, and I am happy to have talking only sessions. This is wonderful in itself: for many people, it is life changing to be able to talk about sexuality in a safe, warm and non judgmental enviroment. For some clients, that is all they want, while for others it builds the foundation of relationship and trust necessary for hands on work later.

For in person sessions involving Bodywork, I find a minimum of two hours is best, for other sessions, a shorter time is possible. For sessions online or by telephone, my standard time is one hour.

If we are doing body work, we will always have a discussion beforehand about your boundaries, and I will not go beyond these, and we will always leave time at the end for discussion, feedback and assimilation.

The most important part of my work is being able to create a safe space, so you can be free to move out of a habitual vigilance and tension, to be in a place where you can experience yourself and your body differently, with more vitality, aliveness, curiosity, courage, joy and receptivity. Somatic sexology is a very broad field. It includes bodywork, but many other modalities also. It will certainly have something for you.

“Having sessions with John has been life changing for me. I feel safer and more confident in my body. I feel more, I am more sexual and I feel more free. Being a woman, it has been fabulous doing this kind of work with a man and I now feel more able to go forward and have sexual relationships. I wholeheartedly recommend seeing John. He very much works with you in a collaborative way, which I find empowering. He offers a safe space to discover things about yourself, as well as to find what you need and want”

Scientist and Administrator, Edinburgh

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