I’m a Somatic Sex Therapist, Sex Coach & Intimacy Surrogate, working in Edinburgh, Scotland with Individuals and Couples who want more pleasure and sexual confidence 

How can I have the sex I truly desire?

My work is about sexual liberation. I can help you with intimacy, sexual healing, erotic pleasure and sexual confidence, through talking, consensual touch and education, in a variety of ways, each of which is warm, open, collaborative and – most importantly – safe. My somatic sexology work helps you discover and have confidence in your own erotic embodied nature. I don’t work just with the body or just through talking, I work with you as a whole person, in all your beauty and uniqueness. I can help you explore your sexuality in a safe way.

I tend to work best with mature open people who seek a journey of expansion and discovery rather than a technical fix.

In the Bodywork aspect of my work I use pleasure and connection to create positive change. Clients frequently come to me experiencing very little sensual or erotic pleasure, never mind passionate sex. They often feel there’s something wrong with them. They may very rarely, or never, orgasm in partnered sex. They may feel numb. Or have a lot of stress and anxiety which inhibits their pleasure. Often they’ve had talking therapy, particularly if there’s trauma. And although that might have been helpful to some extent, it hasn’t addressed the core issues. When with a partner they might often be just focused on their needs and wants.

Other people who work with me’ just want to discover and explore their unique erotic being, but don’t know where to start. They may want to explore edgy things like tantra or kink, but in a safe way. They may feel inexperienced, and want to learn how to give and receive pleasure.

Working with me will help you to feel confident and at home in your body, establishing pleasurable relaxation to build an eroticism  authentic to you, so you can have happy, connected relationships, and better sex. Touch is one way only, the boundaries are discussed and agreed in advance, and I remain clothed throughout the session. Everything is set up to give you maximum scope to explore your capacity to fully feel, free of expectations in a safe and lovingly held space.

In the Sex Coaching aspect of my work, I work with you to discover and liberate your unique sexual nature, which is often repressed, and to identify and deal with blocks to your happiness and expression. I’m much more interested in creating positive change for you than dredging through your past, because I don’t believe that, in itself, understanding changes us. What changes us is different experience, but we often need support to make that happen. I particularly like working with men who feel imprisoned within a ‘performance’ model, and want to find a more connected and feeling alternative.

In my Couples Therapy, I help you understand your own and your partner’s sexual nature, to deepen intimacy and  open up the range of the expression, confidence and connection between you. Your relationship needs loving care and attention to grow. I completely reject the idea that Couples have different sex drives or are incompatible. The key to connection is to understand your own nature and that of your partner, and then open up the possibilities. Most couples I work with have had traditional talk therapy, which sometimes has included sensate focus, which hasn’t really worked, and I believe that I offer a real alternative.

Please see my videos below for more information.

You can read more about my approach here.

You could also have a look at my free mini course Sexuality Maps. There’s a subscribe button on this page.

I am a seasoned sex therapist and somatic sexologist. I live in Edinburgh and have had my sex therapy practice here in Edinburgh since November 2024. Prior to that I worked as a somatic sex therapist in Glasgow from 2012. I’m also a meditation teacher and dancer.

If you’re interested in my sex therapy work but can’t do regular sessions because of distance – for example, you’re in London or Manchester or Dublin – I offer the option of working in depth for an agreed amount of hours within a day or a couple of days.You can find out more in the link, but basically you get a plane or train to Edinburgh, stay somewhere local for one or two nights, and we structure a series of sessions around your visit to optimise the time we have together. And you can tie it in to a short stay in Edinburgh, which is one of the world’s great cities. There’s more detail here

Likewise, if you’re in or near Scotland but not in the Central Belt, for example if you’re in Dundee or Aberdeen or Newcastle, I can design bespoke packages with you.

I was the co-Creator and co-Principal Teacher of The School Of Conscious Touch, which provided unique in-person professional somatic sexology training in Scotland. I continue to provide one-to-one mentoring for people wishing to create their own practice in the sexuality field in a way authentic and unique to them, and I also provide supervision for practitioners.

I have written extensively about somatic sexuality, sexology, sexual pleasure, embodiment and relating, and you can find my articles here. These give a broad sense of the wide range of my work, and my perspective as a sexual therapist, a deeper and more holistic alternative to the focus on performance and orgasm which causes so much unnecessary suffering. I bring in vital aspects of you that the normal view of sexuality ignores: the emotional, the imaginal, the relational, the spiritual.

Addressing sexual issues can be a big ask. I appreciate the courage it requires, so I offer a free and completely confidential Discovery conversation, either in person in Edinburgh or Glasgow or by telephone or Zoom, whichever feels right, so you can find out more. And following our conversation, I’ll give you a written report detailing where you want to be, and how we’re going to get you there.

If you text me on 07545 707751 or email me at johnwebberfraser@gmail.com, we can arrange that.

There are some of the ways you can work with me here for individuals and here, for couples

I’m also on Instagram, and regularly post videos there; please follow me: @johnwebberfraser