I’m a Somatic Sex Therapist & Sex Coach, working in Edinburgh with Individuals and Couples who want more pleasure and sexual confidence 

How can I have the sex life I want?

I can help you with intimacy, sexual healing, erotic pleasure and sexual confidence, through talking, consensual touch and education, in a variety of ways, each of which is warm, open, collaborative and – most importantly – safe. My somatic sexology work helps you discover and have confidence in your own erotic embodied nature. I don’t work just with the body or just through talking, I work with you as a whole person, in all your beauty and uniqueness.

In the Bodywork aspect of my practice,  clients frequently come to me experiencing very little sensual or erotic pleasure, far less passionate sex. They often feel there’s something wrong with them. They may very rarely, or never, orgasm in partnered sex. They may feel sexually numb. When with a partner they are often just focused on the needs and wants of the partner. Other people who work with me’ just want to discover and be more happy in their unique erotic being, but don’t know how to find it, or where to start. And some clients come with blocks from past experience  which cause stress and anxiety and make it very difficult to experience touch pleasurably. If any of this sounds like you, our work will help you to feel confident and at home in your body, establishing pleasurable relaxation as the foundation for building an eroticism which is authentic to you, and which enables you to have happier relationships, and better sex. Touch is one way only, the boundaries are discussed and agreed in advance, and I remain clothed throughout the session. I’m particularly interested in helping to build sexual confidence, and have started a series of free videos, which you can view here

In the Sex Coaching aspect of my practice, I work with you to discover and liberate your unique sexual nature, which is often repressed, and to identify and deal with blocks to your happiness and expression. I’m much more interested in creating positive change for you than dredging through your past, because I don’t believe that, in itself, understanding changes us. What changes us is different experience.

In my Couples Therapy, I help you deepen intimacy and  open up the range of your sexual expression, confidence and connection. Your relationship needs loving care and attention to grow. Please don’t wait until there’s a crisis.

And in my Sexual Education work I teach men and women how to touch and relate and how to gain ease and a sense of connection. This is particularly useful if you feel you are sexually inexperienced or lacking confidence.

Please see my videos below for more information.

You can read more about my approach here.

You could also have a look at my free mini course Sexuality Maps. There’s a subscribe button on this page.

I am a seasoned sex therapist and somatic sexologist. I live and work in Edinburgh. I’m also a meditation teacher and dancer.

If you’re interested in my sex therapy work but can’t do regular sessions because of distance – for example, you’re in London or Manchester or Dublin – I offer the option of working in depth for an agreed amount of hours within a short visit. I’m only a few miles from Edinburgh International Airport, and with very good rail and road connections. You can find out more in the link, but basically you get a plane or train to Edinburgh, stay somewhere local for one or two nights, and we structure a series of sessions around your visit to maximise the therapeutic time we have together. Or you can tie it in to a short stay in Edinburgh, which is one of the world’s great cities. There’s more detail here

Likewise, if you’re in or near Scotland but not in the Central Belt, for example if you’re in Dundee or Aberdeen or Newcastle, I can design specific packages with you.

I was until recently the co-Creator and co-Principal Teacher of The School Of Conscious Touch, which provided unique in-person professional somatic sexology training in Scotland. I continue to provide one-to-one mentoring for people wishing to create their own practice in the sexuality field in a way authentic and unique to them, and I also provide supervision for practitioners.

I have written extensively about somatic sexuality, sexology, sexual pleasure, embodiment and relating, and you can find my articles here. These give a broad sense of the wide range of my work, and my perspective as a sexual therapist, which offers a broader alternative to the focus on performance and orgasm that causes so much unnecessary suffering, by bringing in vital aspects of you that the normal view of sexuality ignores: the emotional, the imaginal, the relational, the spiritual.

Addressing long standing sexual issues can be challenging. I appreciate the courage it requires, so I offer a free and completely confidential informal chat, either in person in Edinburgh or Glasgow or by telephone or Zoom, whichever feels right, so you can find out more.

If you text me on 07545 707751 or email me at johnwebberfraser@gmail.com, we can arrange that.

There are some of the ways you can work with me here for individuals and here, for couples