[you might find it helpful to also take a look at my video course 'Sexual Confidence For Women] How do you define 'Tantric Massage'? Although I have a background in tantra stretching back 20 years, I tend not to talk of my work in terms…

If you don't live in or near Edinburgh, I offer the option of working with me in a focused yet spacious way over a short period. Please note that in the video I talk about you visiting Glasgow, but since filming it, I've moved to Edinburgh,…

For those people who think that sex is 'natural', sexual intercourse will be deemed the most natural. Surely that's the point of it all: underneath the fog of human complexity, sex is procreation. Everything else is just scene setting. And…

What makes a massage Tantric? There are a number of elements, but these are the essential ones: a lot of us have had massages which, although they might be done by someone with a lot of anatomical skill and experience,  somehow just touches…

"Somatics is a field which studies the soma: namely, the body as perceived from within by first person perception. When a human being is observed from the outside..from a third person viewpoint, the phenomenon of a human body is perceived.…

Our first point of contact will generally be one of you emailing or texting me, or filling in my short enquiry form  giving me your contact details and I will then arrange to meet in person [or Zoom] with both of you. Prior to the meeting,…

[This is a continuation of my blog 'What do men want from sex'] How can we develop sexual empathy? How can we know what it feels like to be another person, to experience what they experience? I say that there are two primary ways, and…

There's a pervasive idea that a lot of women are having unsatisfactory sex because they can't have an honest conversation with their male partner about their sexual needs. If only they could, runs the idea, then things would change for the better. Generally,…

In my work with women, there are some persistent themes, but the most persistent - and the saddest - is the belief of so many women that there's something wrong with them. That "wrongness" seems to originate with an awareness that our society's…

In my work, I often come across women who have a very negative body image. Some will endlessly inspect their faces for lines, or other imperfections. Others are convinced they are fat, and obsessively monitor themselves. Very few women…

I do sex therapy work on the telephone in two distinct ways. The first is for people to whom working in person, or online, just seems too risky, but speaking by telephone, even as a start, is possible. The people whom I want to work with…

Sex Therapy Online: the benefits   How can we work with sexual issues remotely? Surely it’s essential to at least have the option of working with the body? I certainly thought this, and had steadfastly set myself against working…

Vaginal massage (sometimes called yoni massage) is a really helpful antidote to oppressive and limiting notions of sexuality

First ever 'cuddle party' comes to Glasgow By Rohese Devereux Taylor The Herald 1st February 2020 Physical contact is good for us. Studies have shown it can ease pain, lift depression and strengthen our immune systems. Conversely,…

It’s one of the truisms of sexuality that women’s sexuality is elusive, and men’s is obvious. It’s obvious, because -presumably - an erection is conspicuously obvious. It’s obvious, because the point of an erection - surely -  is…

" The soul feels unsafe in a frightened body. The Bodywork is to breath courage into the frightened body, to restore pleasure and to make the body a home for the soul again" (Mehdi  Yahya, with thanks to Caffyn Jesse) The first time I…

How do I know what I want when I always know what I ought to want? John's talk from the sex lectures series held in Manchester.

If you ask a heterosexual man what bad sex is, he’s likely to say it’s when sex is boring. He’s unlikely to say, for instance, that bad sex is painful sex, or unwanted sex, or humiliating sex.   Yet, that is often women’s…

One thing that affects sexual confidence for couples is that a surprising amount of people have only had sex with one person: their present or former partner.   I sometimes get couples coming to me who have had a long relationship,…

How did you lose your virginity? What was it like? I lost mine to a nice woman in HR at the office party when I was 25.  I was working in a huge antiquated office, like the House Of Usher. I worked up in an eyrie. She worked down in the…

One of my friends is an acupuncturist, and she told me that increasing numbers of women - overbusy women - were coming to her with fertility issues.  One way she treats these women is to increase their receptivity and their heart connection. …