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Love and Sex Coaching start with the body. Joyful woman in water
News

Tantric Massage For Women

[you might find it helpful to also take a look at my video course 'Sexual Confidence For Women] How do you define 'Tantric Massage'? Although I have a background in tantra stretching back 20 years, I tend not to talk of my work in terms…
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March 26, 2023
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News

Sexual Confidence For Women

In my experience, lack of sexual confidence in women can be generally expressed in one of two statements: I'm not feeling how I'd like to feel I don't feel confident about what to do The first statement is covered by what I do and have…
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March 26, 2023
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News

Sexual Confidence For Men

[ This article focuses on a niche element of my work. To get a better sense of the breadth of my work, have a look at my video course Sexuality Maps] A lot of men have the sense that their idea of sex doesn't really work for their partner,…
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March 23, 2023
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News

Journey to Pleasure: take a break in Edinburgh for in person work tailored for you

If you don't live in or near Edinburgh, I offer the option of working with me in a focused yet spacious way over a short period. Please note that in the video I talk about you visiting Glasgow, but since filming it, I've moved to Edinburgh,…
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March 19, 2023
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Education, Sexual challenges

Why isn’t self pleasure more pleasurable?

One of the many innovations in Sexological Bodywork training is a focus on how we might teach our clients to masturbate in a way which is more embodied, more pleasurable and less formulaic. To this end, Joseph Kramer, the creator of Sexological…
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November 17, 2022
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Education, Learning

My Manchester Sex Lectures Talk: The Vagina Does Not Exist

The Vagina Does Not Exist (the transcript of my talk at The Manchester Sex Lectures, 26/10/22)   My first zen teacher looked at me and asked “ What is it that lifts up the world? What stops it from collapsing?”   I…
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October 27, 2022
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New Learning

The Hidden Ideology Of Intercourse

For those people who think that sex is 'natural', sexual intercourse will be deemed the most natural. Surely that's the point of it all: underneath the fog of human complexity, sex is procreation. Everything else is just scene setting. And…
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July 21, 2022
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New Learning

Women’s Sexuality: More Heresy

The most obvious idea we have about our sexual bodies is that they have a structure. And if we know that structure, then we are on the way to acheiving sexual happiness. In fact, it seems so obvious we don't really think it's an idea at all,…
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June 27, 2022
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Learning, Sexual challenges

Orgasm and Emotion

What is the relationship between orgasm and emotion? When my dad died, 25 years ago, I felt emotionally blocked. I was upset, but I couldn't cry. I'd recently split up with my girlfriend, but because she was a very kind and generous person,…
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April 7, 2022
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Featured, Learning

What Is Tantric Massage?

What makes a massage Tantric? There are a number of elements, but these are the essential ones: a lot of us have had massages which, although they might be done by someone with a lot of anatomical skill and experience,  somehow just touches…
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January 29, 2022
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News

Why the language of arousal often isn’t helpful

What do you pay attention to when you're touched? Say, for example, as you are reading these words, you allow yourself to become aware of the touch of your clothes on your body. What do you notice? If you pay careful attention, you'll become…
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January 3, 2022
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Featured, News

Why Sensate Focus [often] doesn’t work for Couples – and what might

Almost every Couple I've worked with has been to Couples Therapy with a counsellor or psychotherapist. It's not surprising, given the ubiquity of Relate, the cultural preference for a psychological lens,  and the widespread belief that sexual…
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December 23, 2021
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News

What is the ‘Somatic’ in ‘Somatic Sex Therapy’?

"Somatics is a field which studies the soma: namely, the body as perceived from within by first person perception. When a human being is observed from the outside..from a third person viewpoint, the phenomenon of a human body is perceived.…
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December 23, 2021
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Featured, News

Sexuality Maps

The idea that sex is natural is one of the many terrible ideas which - alongside Revolutionary Terror and Totalitarianism - we can attribute to the appalling 18th century philosopher Jean Jacques Rousseau. It's the source of a lot of our unhappiness…
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December 20, 2021
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News

How to start working with me [for individuals]

When you get in touch with me, you might be clear about what you want. You might want a tantric massage, for example, or learn about The Wheel Of Consent, or just talk and explore. In that case, all we need to do is to have a telephone or Zoom…
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December 20, 2021
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News

How to start working with me [for Couples]

Our first point of contact will generally be one of you emailing or texting me, or filling in my short enquiry form  giving me your contact details and I will then arrange to meet in person [or Zoom] with both of you. Prior to the meeting,…
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December 20, 2021
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Cuddle Party
Coaching, New Learning, Sensuality

What Is Intimacy Coaching?

What is intimacy coaching? When people come to a sexuality professional, the general sense is that something will be done to them. They'll experience more, or experience something different, or expand their knowledge and expertise, as in: "I'll…
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July 21, 2021
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Events, New Learning, Sexual challenges

What Is Sexual Fantasy and why does it matter?

I remember first reading Nancy Friday's My Secret Garden, a collection of her interviews with women discussing their sexuality and fantasies, and being amazed at their wealth of detail, ingenuity and richness. The book was published in 1973,…
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June 2, 2021
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Education, New Learning, News

Sexual Empathy

[This is a continuation of my blog 'What do men want from sex'] How can we develop sexual empathy? How can we know what it feels like to be another person, to experience what they experience? I say that there are two primary ways, and…
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May 31, 2021
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News

What Do Men Want From Sex?

If you're a woman, you might sometimes ask yourself, "What do men want from sex?" At the end of the Edinburgh Festival, there's a firework display, late at night, from the Castle, which sits above the city like a raised stage, with the dark…
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April 26, 2021
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News

The Value of The Erotic Imagination

Our culture's common belief is that our sexuality exists in two forms: the interior and the relational. In this perspective, sexual fantasy belongs to the interior; the stories or images that we find exciting or arousing, often derived from…
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April 26, 2021
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News

Why “Difficult Conversations about Sex” fail, and why

There's a pervasive idea that a lot of women are having unsatisfactory sex because they can't have an honest conversation with their male partner about their sexual needs. If only they could, runs the idea, then things would change for the better. Generally,…
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April 3, 2021
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Coaching for Women. Every Body Loves. Sex and Relationship Coaching for full beautiful self expression
News

Why is Oral Sex Problematic?

why is it taking so long? if I don't orgasm soon my partner will be frustrated and disappointed I haven't a clue what to do These are common thoughts which people have around oral sex. Which, when you think of it, are quite strange.…
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March 27, 2021
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New Learning

The Eight Dimensions of Sexuality

In my work with clients, and particularly with Couples, I use a schema called 'The Compass of Sexuality'. I've adapted this from various sexuality school traditions, expanding and adjusting to fit all that I know within it. The value of…
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March 19, 2021
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Learning

Three Metaphors of Female Sexuality: The World, The Ensemble and The Magical Being

In my work with women, there are some persistent themes, but the most persistent - and the saddest - is the belief of so many women that there's something wrong with them. That "wrongness" seems to originate with an awareness that our society's…
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March 12, 2021
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News

Why the term ‘Sex Therapy’ sometimes doesn’t work, especially for Couples

One of the trickiest issues for people like me is what to call ourselves. 'Sexological Bodyworker' is quite a niche term.It isn't widely known, and almost everyone who has the qualification has it as a part of their practice, but not all. 'Sexual…
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March 5, 2021
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News

What ‘fixing bad sex’ means

In 'The Full Monty', a hapless middle aged man, played by Tom Wilkinson, has a row with his exasperated wife. He's been buying her garden gnomes for decades, because when he gave her the first one, he thought that she liked them, when she was…
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February 22, 2021
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Education. Every Body Loves, Cupped hands gathering water
News

Overcoming Negative Body Image

In my work, I often come across women who have a very negative body image. Some will endlessly inspect their faces for lines, or other imperfections. Others are convinced they are fat, and obsessively monitor themselves. Very few women…
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February 15, 2021
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Coaching

The Chthonic Clitoris

In the space of less than one lifetime, as a society, we have gone from not thinking about the clitoris at all to focusing on it as the main organ of female pleasure, and we have changed our sense of it from just being the glands, where the…
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February 6, 2021
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Sexual challenges

The Myth of Female Sexual Dysfunction

In my intake questionnaire, one of the questions I ask is whether there's a difference between the experience of orgasm [or lack of it] in partnered sex and solo sex. A frequent response from women seems to be that they have no problem reaching…
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February 2, 2021
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Coaching

The Benefits of Sex Therapy by Telephone

I do sex therapy work on the telephone in two distinct ways. The first is for people to whom working in person, or online, just seems too risky, but speaking by telephone, even as a start, is possible. The people whom I want to work with…
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January 12, 2021
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Coaching

Somatic Sex Therapy: Working with The Body

John Fraser, Somatic Sex Therapist and Sexological Bodyworker, Edinburgh [ for information about the structure  of a sex therapy session, see here ] [for information on the possible contents  of a sex therapy session, see here ]         How…
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December 10, 2020
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Coaching

Sex Therapy and Sex Counselling For Couples

Sex Therapy should start with a recognition that what we regard as sex is very restricted and almost guaranteed to make most people dissatisfied most of the time
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November 25, 2020
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Sexual challenges

The Benefits of Sex Therapy Online

Sex Therapy Online: the benefits   How can we work with sexual issues remotely? Surely it’s essential to at least have the option of working with the body? I certainly thought this, and had steadfastly set myself against working…
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November 11, 2020
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Coaching

Sex Therapy: My Approach

My approach to sex therapy is unusual, and  counter intuitive to our culture's usual assumptions about sexuality. I don't start with the assumption that there's something 'not working' with your body or your capacity for intimacy. My starting…
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November 11, 2020
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Featured, Sexual challenges

Curing Sexual ‘Inexperience’

If one person feels something, that's a personal issue. If a lot of people feel the same thing, that isn't just personal; it says something about society too. The problem of sexual inexperience falls into this category. We live in a hyper…
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September 14, 2020
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Coaching

The Misunderstood Vagina

Vaginal massage (sometimes called yoni massage) is a really helpful antidote to oppressive and limiting notions of sexuality
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March 14, 2020
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Sexual challenges

Increasing ‘Low Sexual Desire’ In Women

A remarkably high number of women claim to have low sexual desire. The figures vary, but it's anywhere between one third and two thirds.   When a figure is this high, does the problem lie with the thing itself, or how we think about…
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March 1, 2020
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New Learning

Transactional Sex: You Owe Me

Twice a week, on my way to the zen dojo, I walk through Glasgow University and past a plaque commemorating Adam Smith, the father of capitalism, who was a professor there.   Adam Smith had a theory about the origin of money. He said…
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February 2, 2020
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Cuddle Party
News

First ever ‘cuddle party’ comes to Glasgow

First ever 'cuddle party' comes to Glasgow By Rohese Devereux Taylor The Herald 1st February 2020 Physical contact is good for us. Studies have shown it can ease pain, lift depression and strengthen our immune systems. Conversely,…
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February 1, 2020
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Sexual challenges

Overcoming Sexual Shame

Shame is endemic in our society, yet nobody talks about it. Which is strange, because it is the silent killer of sexual love. The heart isn’t cut to pieces in battle. It unknowingly dies, like a sleeping person in a room gradually filling…
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January 14, 2020
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Learning

Helping Chronic Pelvic Pain

According to the NHS website, 1 in 6 women are affected by chronic pelvic pain. That’s an extraordinary statistic. A lot of the time, doctors can identify the cause. But that still leaves many many cases of unexplained, long term pain. And,…
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January 11, 2020
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Learning

Re-thinking Male Anatomy

It’s one of the truisms of sexuality that women’s sexuality is elusive, and men’s is obvious. It’s obvious, because -presumably - an erection is conspicuously obvious. It’s obvious, because the point of an erection - surely -  is…
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December 31, 2019
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Learning

Benefits of Genital Massage: It’s Not About Technique

I talked to my Zen Group the other week about the language we use when we talk about the body. In that context, I noted that in ordinary language, we tend to use the word "body" to refer to the body below the neck, and the word "head" to refer…
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December 30, 2019
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New Learning

Benefits of Anal Massage

To access my free video course 'Sexual Confidence For Women, click here To access my 5 part free course 'Sexuality Maps' click here. For a full list of my articles on intimacy and sexuality, click here For Sexuality Practitioners, Resources…
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November 11, 2019
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Learning

Healing Sexual Trauma

" The soul feels unsafe in a frightened body. The Bodywork is to breath courage into the frightened body, to restore pleasure and to make the body a home for the soul again" (Mehdi  Yahya, with thanks to Caffyn Jesse) The first time I…
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October 27, 2019
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Learning

Better Touch

  How can we touch better? When I was a kid in the late sixties, watching Man From Uncle on the telly, the bit I liked best was Napoleon Solo going into an innocent looking basement shop in New York. He would casually press a few buttons…
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September 15, 2019
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Coaching

Healing Body Dysmorphia

My friend Minnie Iris is a very talented artist. I have one of her pictures in my practice space. She is a trustee of  the Body Dysmorphic Disorder Trust. In the words of their website: "The term Body Dysmorphic Disorder [BDD] describes…
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August 17, 2019
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Events

How do I know what I want?

How do I know what I want when I always know what I ought to want? John's talk from the sex lectures series held in Manchester.
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July 4, 2019
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Sensuality

How to be Good At Sex

In Nick Roeg’s film ‘Insignificance’, there’s a great scene where Albert Einstein and Marilyn Munro are in bed together. It’s striking, because we don’t expect people like Einstein (geniuses who live in their head) to be any good…
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April 1, 2018
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New Learning

Sexual Healing

How does sexual healing work? I have a client who’s been coming to see me for about a year.  When we started working together, he seemed to be carrying a lot of shock in his body.  If I touched a particular part of him; his belly, for…
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March 4, 2018
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Sensuality

No More Bad Sex

If you ask a heterosexual man what bad sex is, he’s likely to say it’s when sex is boring. He’s unlikely to say, for instance, that bad sex is painful sex, or unwanted sex, or humiliating sex.   Yet, that is often women’s…
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March 4, 2018
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Sensuality

Porn for women

Ages ago, before the internet, I had an affair with a woman who liked porn. We’d have sex, and while I was recuperating, we’d watch some of her porn. The only one I remember was one involving a vacuum salesman and a housewife. You can imagine.…
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February 19, 2018
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Sexual challenges

Dealing with Premature Ejaculation

When we talk about premature ejaculation, we’re really talking about several different issues, and it’s helpful to distinguish them.   The first is a euphemism for unsatisfactory sex, particularly for the woman. The man just comes…
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January 11, 2018
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Sexual challenges

Sex Counselling for Couples

One thing that affects sexual confidence for couples is that a surprising amount of people have only had sex with one person: their present or former partner.   I sometimes get couples coming to me who have had a long relationship,…
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January 9, 2018
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Coaching

Am I Asexual?

"Our desire for connection is tangled up in a culture of sexuality" -David Jay, The Asexual Visibility and Education Network   It's estimated that 1% of the population is asexual. 'Asexuality' is defined as the absence of sexual…
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September 11, 2017
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Coaching, Sensuality

Disability and Sexual Expression

One of the clients I found most challenging when I started as a sex coach was a delightful young woman with cerebral palsy.  Let's call her Rachel.   The challenge was threefold.   Firstly, there was a change in the normal…
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June 18, 2017
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Cuddle Party
Learning

Losing My Virginity

How did you lose your virginity? What was it like? I lost mine to a nice woman in HR at the office party when I was 25.  I was working in a huge antiquated office, like the House Of Usher. I worked up in an eyrie. She worked down in the…
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March 1, 2017
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Sexual challenges

Curing Vaginismus

According to the NHS website "it's not fully understood why the condition (vaginismus) happens. Factors can include: thinking the vagina is too small, negative sexual thoughts, previous sexual abuse or unwelcome telepathic interference from…
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March 1, 2017
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New Learning

Male and Female Orgasms

In the Woody Allan film 'Manhattan', a female character says "I finally had an orgasm, and my doctor told me it was the wrong kind" The joke derives from Freud's idea that clitoral orgasms were immature and masculine, and that the mature…
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April 22, 2016
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Sexual challenges

How can I become more fertile?

One of my friends is an acupuncturist, and she told me that increasing numbers of women - overbusy women - were coming to her with fertility issues.  One way she treats these women is to increase their receptivity and their heart connection. …
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April 1, 2016
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Sexual challenges

Healing Genital Numbness

Lots of people think that erotic touch needs to be high energy. If a lot of sexual energy isn't flowing, so goes the idea, then the touch isn't working. I don't think that's true, and actually I would argue it's positively harmful.   I…
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February 15, 2016
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