Why the language of arousal often isn’t helpful
What do you pay attention to when you’re touched? Say, for example, as you are reading these words, you allow […]
Entries by John Webber Fraser
Why Sensate Focus [often] doesn’t work for Couples – and what might
Almost every Couple I’ve worked with has been to Couples Therapy. It’s not surprising, given the ubiquity of Relate and […]
What is the ‘Somatic’ in ‘Somatic Sex Therapy’?
“Somatics is a field which studies the soma: namely, the body as perceived from within by first person perception. When […]
Sexuality Maps
The idea that sex is natural is one of the many terrible ideas which – alongside Revolutionary Terror and Totalitarianism […]
How to start working with me [for individuals]
When you get in touch with me, you might be clear about what you want. You might want a tantric […]
How to start working with me [for Couples]
Our first point of contact will generally be one of you filling in my short enquiry form giving me your […]
What Is Intimacy Coaching?
What is intimacy coaching? When people come to a sexuality professional, the general sense is that something will be done to […]
What Is Sexual Fantasy and why does it matter?
I remember first reading Nancy Friday’s My Secret Garden, a collection of her interviews with women discussing their sexuality and […]
Sexual Empathy
[This is a continuation of my blog ‘What do men want from sex‘] How can we develop sexual empathy? How […]
What Do Men Want From Sex?
If you’re a woman, you might sometimes ask yourself, “What do men want from sex?” At the end of the […]