What Is Sexual Fantasy and why does it matter?
I remember first reading Nancy Friday’s My Secret Garden, a collection of her interviews with women discussing their sexuality and […]
Entries by John Webber Fraser
Sexual Empathy
[This is a continuation of my blog ‘What do men want from sex‘] How can we develop sexual empathy? How […]
What Do Men Want From Sex?
If you’re a woman, you might sometimes ask yourself, “What do men want from sex?” At the end of the […]
The Value of The Erotic Imagination
Our culture’s common belief is that our sexuality exists in two forms: the interior and the relational. In this perspective, […]
Why “Difficult Conversations about Sex” fail, and why
There’s a pervasive idea that a lot of women are having unsatisfactory sex because they can’t have an honest conversation […]
Why is Oral Sex Problematic?
why is it taking so long? if I don’t orgasm soon my partner will be frustrated and disappointed I haven’t […]
The Eight Dimensions of Sexuality
In my work with clients, and particularly with Couples, I use a schema called ‘The Compass of Sexuality’. I’ve adapted […]
Three Metaphors of Female Sexuality: The World, The Ensemble and The Magical Being
In my work with women, there are some persistent themes, but the most persistent – and the saddest – is […]
Why the term ‘Sex Therapy’ sometimes doesn’t work, especially for Couples
One of the trickiest issues for people like me is what to call ourselves. ‘Sexological Bodyworker’ is quite a niche […]
What ‘fixing bad sex’ means
In ‘The Full Monty’, a hapless middle aged man, played by Tom Wilkinson, has a row with his exasperated wife. […]